Okay, so I just need to vent. Every occasion is spent at my in laws... ITS NEVER ABOUT MY FAMILY. My family is never included nor thought much about by my husband. The past 4 years every occasion was AT my in laws. I know, I could stay behind and let him go and do something at my house with my parents but like fuck, were married? He should be participating in doing stuff with my family as well. We’ve spent the last 3 months, every weekend... doing some sort of function. Now his father’s birthday coming up, I didnt know when it was ( I’m not particularly close with his dad because he’s a straight up A hole and I avoid him ) anyways so a couple weeks ago we planned for this one weekend my mom was going to take my 4 month daughter overnight as I need a break and to go out.... come to find out, now we have to go to his parents and I’m annoyed... yes, it’s to celebrate his father’s birthday but these plans were already made prior. My mom will take her regardless because I want to be without child for one night... no, my mom can’t watch her another weekend because she works weekends and she took it off to baby sit. I don’t have any other baby sitters.... and I just want one weekend without going to my in-laws, without caring for a baby and just to relax and have drinks. The weekend after we have to go back to my in-laws for Father’s Day but I’m just not going to go, I have my own father that I haven’t seen on Father’s Day is 4 years. I want to spend it with my spouse because he is the father of my child but if he chooses to go spend it with his father then that’s his choice but I’m not. I don’t know why occasions can never be spent at our place where we can include my family as well... but it just won’t happen because his family needs to throw it... I spent my first Mother’s Day with his family, not celebrating it for myself or even my own mom. I stopped after to bring her a coffee and say hi and happy Mother’s Day but that was literally for 10 mins then we had to run my step son back to his own moms house for a specific time... I’d stay longer but I don’t have a vehicle so it doesn’t work.

I have expressed these feelings but they are normally disregarded or we just fight and he doesn’t see what I am trying to explain. I did say something about my mom watching my child and how we made plans for a date night and that I really don’t want to give that up as this is the only time she can do this as she pre booked work off for US. Regardless if we don’t go out for date night my mom will still take her as id feel horrible making her loose a days pay for us to back out. His father’s birthday is not on the weekend so I don’t understand why we cant schedule this for the following weekend, it makes no difference as his dads birthday is a Wednesday but it’s whatever my in-laws want and whenever they demand it they get it. Mind you, they have no actual interest in my daughter. I’ve reached out time and time again and they won’t come visit... they only care about their first born grandchild... as all the grandchildren were sitting there my MIL sat there on repeat saying “you’re my favourite” to the oldest and I found that extremely disrespectful... especially while the other two are right there and I secretly haven’t let that go... I didn’t say anything because my opinions/feelings don’t matter but why do I want to give up my ONLY free night to go sit at my in-laws who have absolutely no desire in my child and say shit like the example I just gave? They ignore me when I ask for them to meet up and they call demanding dinner for the sole purpose for my FIL’s benefit when they do absolutely nothing or don’t try at all with having a relationship with their other grandchildren r