Feeling insecure about him watching porn.
I’m currently pregnant and haven’t felt confident in my body for a while. It doesn’t help when my boyfriend lies about watching porn (he finally admitted he watches it because he couldn’t get hard when we were about to have sex) and then tells me that he’s into women with wider hips and bigger butts. I don’t have either of those things and it just overall put a huge damper in my self confidence. I know I shouldn’t feel this way but it’s really hard not to. I’m assuming it’s just because I’m pregnant but idk. He says he won’t watch porn again but he’s already made that promise before stating he felt it was wrong but now says he doesn’t see anything wrong with it but he doesn’t want me to watch porn because he’ll feel insecure about it like ??? It’s only ok if he can get off to naked women that fit his definition of perfect but if I watch naked men it’s not ok ? He says he’s still attracted to me and that he still thinks I’m beautiful but it’s really hard to take his word for it especially when he can’t even get hard for me but can surely get hard for women he finds attractive off the internet. I know my opinion of myself should be the only one that matters but when the man I’ve been in love with since middle school tells me he’s attracted to women who have features i don’t have is kinda heart crushing. I’ll boss up and after my baby gets here start working out at the gym and fix my body the way I want it to be (I’m aware that I can’t exactly change my shape but I think it I lost belly weight my thighs and hips would stand out more and even if they don’t I feel I could be more confident with my body shape if I lose weight) . How did you guys handle porn in your relationships ? How did you fight through insecurities ? Any advice for me ?
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