Anxiety and sex with bf please reply

I have been suffering for anxiety attacks when me and my boyfriend of 2 years had a very big argument which resulted in us almost breaking up , he is my soulmate and I love him and the idea of almost losing him made me very anxious , however I’ve been feeling really insecure and upset about his sexual history and it makes me feel not special even though they didn’t mean anything I still feel like shit when I imagine him having sex with other women , one of them goes to my college and I saw her and immediately went to the toilet and started crying and had my first anxiety attack , my boyfriend is the love of my life and everything about him is perfect , I just wish I was the first women in his life , I’ve only even had sex with 1 other boy when I was 13 and it hurt and I couldn’t feel anything but I know that when he did have sex it was pleasurable and exciting for him and it makes me. Upset. I know this sounds stupid but every time he isn’t really in the mood for sex it makes me feel like they where better than me and that sex with me isn’t as exciting, please be positive

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Ca

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His sexual past has nothing to do with you. It didn’t involve you. You’re taking it too personally. You’re going to run into all kinds of people in life and you cannot cry over them if they have had a relationship with your boyfriend.Your insecurities can actually end your relationship. You really need to work on yourself and what you want out of life. You have to accept the fact that some people have pasts and it’s not about you and it never involved you.

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I'm sorry that you are going through this, but the past is the past, he can't change it, he can't go back in time, so you just need to learn to accept it

Va

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There’s not much to say but that you need to be grown & accept the fact that he has a past. Everyone does, you either accept him or leave him. Because you are basically causing your own self pain & that’s something unfair to hold him accountable for.