Just wondering what to

Do to keep it fun, part of the reason we’re gonna stop trying is bc hubby says it’s not fun anymore and it’s breaking my heart... when we found out we were pregnant the last time before we mc (mc 3/22, got our bfp 3/2), it was unexpected and a total surprise as a matter of fact hubs and our 8 yr old daughter knew I was pregnant before I did!!! Totally missed all the symptoms bc I was preoccupied with Birthdays and our anniversary. I think he wants the surprise aspect to happen again. All of the opks, temping, and hpts are freaking him out. Idk what to do all I know is we want another baby and idk if we should just stop altogether and just have fun or stay on track with testing bc I’m 41???