When I first moved in with my S/O, he used to come home on time, he wanted to spend time together when he got home from work, and he enjoyed going out for date night once a week.

Now, he comes home hours late (he works full time and gets off 4:30pm but doesn’t come home until after 7) and when he gets home, he’d rather obsessively clean the house (while criticizing the way I’ve cleaned it while he was gone.)

I work part time and have been moved to work closing shifts, so on the days that I work, he wakes up and leaves for work when I’m still asleep, and then I have to go into work before he gets home and when I get home from work, it’s late and he’s asleep because he has to wake up early.

Whenever I call or text him during the day, he rarely answered his phone and when he does, he sounds like he’s annoyed with me and it makes me feel bad for wanting to talk to him.

I don’t THINK that there’s someone else, because I know that while he’s away, he’s at work. (We share our locations with each other because of a car accident I got into on my way to work a while back) but I just don’t know what’s wrong.

I feel like he’s avoiding me, and whenever I ask about it he swears he isn’t and that it’s just very busy at work, and I can understand a couple extra hours, but he’s working between 70 and 80 hours a week, and going in at least 6 days when he is only required to go in 4 and work 40 hours.

I’ve tried to offer to go back home and stay with my family for a while so that we can take a break because I feel like he doesn’t want me anymore, but he refuses to let us take a break and cries and promises that he wants this relationship and that he is afraid that taking a break really means breaking up and he doesn’t want that.

But I just feel like this isn’t what he wants and like he’s avoiding me and I don’t know what to do or what to think. 😞