So my husband is pretty much addicted to working out, never misses a day. It’s usually not a big deal for me, it’s just annoying that I have to plan things around his gym schedule, but other than that he’s a great husband. We get along very well, almost never fight, he’s respectful and loyal (I think). So I just put up with it.

However, now I’m actually questioning his love for me...

I was 35 weeks pregnant when I suddenly developed severe preeclampsia. I found out during my checkup and was sent to the hospital, where I had an emergency c-section. Although my baby was born a month early, she was perfectly healthy.

I had my c-section at 8pm on a Monday. My husband stayed with me at the hospital that night, and went home on Tuesday morning to take care of our dogs and do laundry for the baby. At 5:45pm I texted him asking if he was coming and he said he was getting her clothes out of the drier and would come. He got back at the hospital at 8pm. I recently found out he took a class at the gym from 5 to 6pm!! So not only he worked out while I was in the hospital, less than 24 hours after his preemie baby was born, he also lied about it!

Now I should note that I also had postpartum preeclampsia so that was a very hard week for me. The whole thing was very scary. I was afraid of dying since a girl I knew had died due to preeclampsia just a few months before.

I didn’t get sent to the room until 8pm on Tuesday because I had to stay on the magnesium drip for 24 hours. He spent the night with me on Tuesday, and went home again on Wednesday “to clean the house” (which I’m sure his mom did). He showed up at 9pm with this parents, when all I wanted was to take a shower and sleep. Anyway, at 10:30 I gave him a hint to leave and take his parents home, which he did. But he never came back, because he wanted to sleep at home. He had already arranged with my sister for her to stay with me without even letting me know. He was the one on paternity leave, not her. She actually took time off work to stay with me.

So I was discharged on Thursday, but got readmitted on Friday due to very high blood pressure again. I got back at the hospital on Friday at 3pm and was admitted to the ICU. He didn’t show up until after 9pm, stayed for an hour and went home to be with the baby. I understand that he needed to sleep at home because of the baby, but he could have come earlier to see me since his mom was staying at our house and taking care of her.

On Saturday, while I was still in the ICU, he didn’t show up until late in the afternoon and I thought he was home with the baby. I later found out he went to the gym that day too!! Wtf! What kind of man goes to the gym while his wife is in the ICU? His priorities that day should be to stay with the baby or stay with me, but instead he chose to do neither and go work out!!

Thank God my family was present so I didn’t actually need him to take care of me, but I still felt abandoned. He is my husband, he is the father of my baby, so he should be the one helping me, not my sister.

It’s been 7 months already but I just can’t get over it. It really made me question his love for me. It seems like he just doesn’t give a fuck.

How would you feel? Do you feel like it’s normal for me to feel unloved or am I overreacting?

Thanks and sorry for the long post!!