Can you have 2 maid of honor?
Backstory, when I was first picking my wedding party I was really torn between my best friend of 16 years and my sister but as the wedding planning started and I could feel the tension between my parents and my in-laws (who are no longer speaking with my fiance so it's only my parents invoked) & I went with my best friend because I might have needed her to step up and to tell both sides to calm down and they wouldn't care plus she's a better off financially than my sister and I didn't want to add any monetary stress to my sister.
Well yesterday we did a hot chocolate tasting for the cocktail hour because we can't have hard liquor so the signature drink is going to be hot chocolate and they'll be a bunch of toppings and stuff to go with it. In response to the text with my parents address my maid of honor let me know that she was on her way to Oregon and wasn't coming but my sister came and kept dropping hints about how she felt she should be the maid of honor or not her. I now live out of state so it's hard to do things with either one of them but my girlfriend has come to travel to bridal shows but missed all the local stuff and my sister is coming all the local stuff but not traveled. I love them both dearly and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but my sister is really hurt that I didn't pick her and I don't want to cancel my best friend as maid of honor. To me it doesn't make a difference who actually is the maid of honor because at this point I'm planning out of state and they're not able to come over on a whim so just be day of type stuff but my sister's hurt and my best friend will be her if I take her out of that spot can they both just feel like maid of honor?