Sister doesn’t want to be apart of pregnancy

My sister and I have always had a very tumultuous relationship. I am the oldest of 3 and pregnant with my first - she has 4 children.

We live very different lives. I’m 30 and My partner is very hands on. My sister had her first baby young - and the father wasn’t around. Because of that I went to dr appointments with her - and was there through the birth.

The other day I was talking about my birth plan (I’m going for a natural birth and a birthing center) and she’s constantly criticizing everything. I mentioned not having many people in the room, and not having many visitors for the first 4-6 weeks and she went OFF!!!

Saying oh well you just wait and if you ever need me don’t call me! I was facetimeing her and my boyfriend was right beside me. She always throws in how I was there and blah blah. - but it’s a different circumstance. My partner and I want it to be intimate.

I ended up hanging up because she was yelling at me - and she immediately texts me saying she doesn’t want to be apart of this anymore and best of luck.

I didn’t respond.

Our gender reveal is in 3 weeks - I’m thinking if she doesn’t apologize before the. I will not invite her.

I have gone a full year without talking to her bc she’s so toxic and negative and it’s hurtful bc I’m always there for her - this is a big life change I’m going through and would love her support but I will not beg someone to be apart of my life.

Any opinions? Thoughts?

We haven’t talked since this happened on Saturday.