Would you consider adoption if you got pregnant unplanned, and you knew you couldn’t afford a third baby? Or would you keep baby, and do the best you could?

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Okay, so my partner and I have been together for 11 years. We have an older daughter, and my son just turned a year old in May. We just found out that I’m about six weeks along, and we are both panicking. We were being ‘careful’ obviously not trying for a third little one. Now we are really concerned about how we are going to afford three. 😓 I was just about to get my tubes tied, but found out I was pregnant instead. What would you do? Does anyone have any advice? I feel horrible for even considering adoption, but I’m really scared. I want to keep my baby, and it’s really hard even trying to put myself in the right mindset to just hand it away. ☹️

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Id get an abortion 🤷🏻‍♀️ but that's just me

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I could not give my baby up especially after having two already, y’all have 8-9 months to better your financial situation, so that’s what I would concentrate on

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I would not choose either of these options.

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If you want it bad enough you’ll find a way to make it work.

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I would have an abortion.

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Depending on how old your older daughter is it could be really hard for her to understand why you don’t bring home a baby after this pregnancy like you did with the last one. If she’s not old enough to understand then that may not be a factor. I’d say if you want to keep the baby then you’ll be able to find a way to make it work and it would probably be really hard on you to give it up for adoption. You could always look into an open adoption if you wanted to go that route but still be able to have your family involved in the baby’s life.

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Talk to your family.

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I gave my first born up for adoption. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. And now I have 4 kids and there isn’t a chance in hell I could’ve done it after I had my kids. Once you are a mother I feel it’s much harder to carry a baby for 9 months and give it away. But I will say if u do choose adoption it is a wonderful beautiful thing to do. U can Change someone’s life and make their dreams come true.

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I would make it work. But that’s just me.

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I was in a similar situation, got accidentally pregnant with my 3rd child when my second was only 7 months old. I was on the IUD and breastfeeding so the fact that I got pregnant alone was shocking. I was very concerned about being able to afford a third child, especially so close in age (they are 16 months apart) because it meant 2 daycare bills, getting a bigger car etc. 
I scheduled an abortion but then decided I just couldn’t. Babies are always a blessing and I vowed to find a way to make it work! 
If there’s a will, there’s a way! To this day I never regret keeping my son and can’t imagine life without him. He’s 6 now 🤗

Would you consider adoption if you got pregnant unplanned, and you knew you couldn’t afford a third baby? Or would you keep baby, and do the best you could?

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