Will I love my baby?

Question

Feeling like a terrible mom-to -be... I am 37w+4 and I am all of sudden anxious about meeting my baby. Up to this point this is (obviously) all I've been waiting for and now I feel a sudden wave of "wow...how is this all real and how is it so close to being over?". 
I just need some comfort. I don't want to look at my little miracle and be doubtful over my attachment. It's hard sometimes to imagine it's OUR baby in there...we haven't seen him/her since our 20 week ultrasound. That seems AGES ago. 
TIA.

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I don’t have any advice, just that I connect with you on this. This is my first baby and she was planned. I’ve been ready and scared to meet her. I know my life is going to change forever and it’s not just me and my boyfriend anymore..I can’t believe I’ll have to be responsible for another humans life and that terrifies me even more now. It’s really overwhelming and gives boyfriend and I both anxiety, but at the same time we can’t wait to love her and watch her grow. Good luck mama, your baby will be here and everything will fall into place 💜

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If you don’t feel attachment right away, it’s ok. My husband and I look back at the first month or so with our daughter and remember feeling like we were looking after someone else’s child. It was very surreal. But after a few months, she and I had a connection. It helps when they can laugh and smile and such! I hear it’s normal for it to take some time, especially with your 1st.

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Dont be alarmed if you dont feel attachment right away. It took a little bit for the realization to hit that this was MY baby. At the same time, please seek help if you don't feel anything for your baby after a while. I had PPD and didnt realize it and it took months to finally feel anything towards my child.

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The second they place your baby on your chest/belly after pushing him/her out and you wrap your hands around baby you will instantly fall back in love! I know it’s nervous and surreal, but you created that little life and your baby will be perfect!

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Yes! You will love that baby! It may take some time or it may be instant, either way is normal. 
There will be times that are hard and you’ll question your decision to become a parent, because life was so much easier beforehand, but then you’ll look at that baby through calmer eyes and know you made the right decision. Oppositely, there will be moments where you are so overwhelmed by love and grateful to god, or the universe, or whomever that this little person is yours. 
Parenting is so hard, mostly because you love them so much! It aches to think about anything harming them, and you’ll feel inadequate to the task more often than you can imagine. Yet you’ll also know deep in your heart that you’re the right parent for that crazy little person. 
There are days I still feel like I’m playing pretend; how can I be someone’s parent? My husband and I are silly and ridiculous! We still are figuring out our lives, and still make jokes about butts regularly... how can someone depend on us for everything? It’s also the most amazing part of life and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. When my toddler walks into the room and makes a fart noise when I asked her for a hug, I know she’s her daddy’s daughter through and through, and we are doing something right!