Can anyone relate? 🤦🏻‍♀️

So my husband and I have been together 3 years married 1.5...my husband is not well endowed, he is on the smaller side...I’ve never had a problem with that, until recently! We have a 2.5 year old son and since he came along our sex life is very hit or miss, and very “hey you wanna have sex”! Nothing exciting or anything but it gets the job done! The past two times I have had a hard time getting the big O...I’ve always needed clit stimulation, in which my wand or bullet comes in handy! But lately I’d almost rather use that for 30 seconds, get my O and be done, rather than get frustrated because we are having technical difficulties with him getting her enough for it to stay in or the constant slipping of the vibrator. C rings with vibratory don’t do the job and I’m at my whits end!! He is out of practice in the oral department, but I also feel like it takes a lot more for me to get mine! Can anyone suggest anything?? There is also a height difference between us which makes positions harder. (I’m taller)