Pregnant after two miscarriages - when to announce?

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I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in October 2018 and another at 5 weeks this April. I’m currently 8 weeks and just waiting for the ball to drop. I want to be happy. I want to be positive. I want to be hopeful. But it is just so hard to get my hopes up again. I don’t know when I’ll feel like telling people, because with my first MMC I told a bunch of people and then had to answer the “how’s the pregnancy going?” questions with “well, I’m not pregnant anymore.” Nobody even knows I had the second MMC because I just didn’t tell anyone.
The anxiety and second guessing every little change is so frustrating. “Oh, today I wasn’t nauseous, does that mean the baby isn’t developing?” “I haven’t had round ligament pain lately, is the baby dying?”
Ugh.

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Being pregnant after a Mc is torture. You panic every time you wipe making sure there’s no blood. You can’t help but wonder if today will be the day you lose this one as well. It’s like that the whole time and it’s normal. Previous Mc makes it hard to enjoy a current pregnancy. I had 2 Mc and then had my 2 year old then after her I had a missed Mc at 14wks and a still birth at 20wks. I got pregnant again and I’m currently 36wks and let me tell you, it hasn’t been easy. This one I’ve kept a secret and haven’t posted anything about being pregnant. My immediate family knew right away but extended family didn’t find out until they got baby shower invitations. We won’t announce until she is born. Being this far along hasn’t helped ease anything either. Anytime I don’t feel her move I go into a panic and start poking at her to get a movement because that’s the only way I feel comfort. My first Mc I announced right away at 4wks and then lost it, my 2nd I didn’t announce, my daughter I announced at 14wks, my missed Mc I had announced as soon as we found out because we thought after having a healthy baby nothing and could happen, it did. Then with our still born I announced at 19wks and she passed at 20wks. It’s good to tell close friends and family so that you have the support whether the outcome is a positive or negative one but everyone else is definitely more of a personal choice. I decided this time to keep her a secret because I got a lot of rude comments after my stillbirth. People including family (my own sister) has harsh things to say. Good luck to you, I hope all goes well. Announce when you feel comfortable, there’s no rule as to when you need or don’t need to.

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Tell the supportive people in your life early-then you have support and people to talk to during an emotional pregnancy.

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In the same way, I had a miscarriage in Dec and everybody know about that, and 2nd on March and we don’t told to anybody.. we are trying and waiting this month our rainbow. But we don’t want talk to anybody until 12 weeks.

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I totally understand. We are trying again after mc in December and a mmc in March that resulted in d&c. I am excited we are trying again but so nervous too.

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The only recommondation could be: „do what feels best for you“. Tell your closests if you want and need their Support in case it doesn‘t end up going well or even if you just want to have them be hopeful and ecxited with you when everything is going great. 
Or you could wait the scary first Trimester to be over and Tell Them afterwards. 
With our first we told my husbands Brother and wife at 6 weeks, because we had a Trip planned and I didn’t want to fly. So we canceled it and told them. Well, 3 weeks later I had my d&c. And we told Family and Friends afterwards. With out 2nd mc we told my Husbands Family right after surgery (d&c). With my Family we weiter a Little longer, because my grandpa died 3 days before my MC. So they were sad, upset and very busy organising the funeral. I didn’t want to „bother“ them with our „problem“ on top of their grief. So we told them a few weeks after the funeral.
So, there is no right or wrong way. 
I would suggest not to announce at work early on. But if you feel comfortable telling friends and family, go ahead! :)

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I’m so sorry love ♥️ praying that this baby will have a happy 9 months in your belly! As far as publicly announcing, I’d wait for the first trimester to finish. But I think you could tell those closest to you for support as they will most likely understand and support you no matter what. I am going thru a chemical pregnancy right now and it’s my first pregnancy and I jumped the gun and told some co workers and now I’m going to have to tell them I’m no longer pregnant when they ask... I won’t do that again. When I do get pregnant next time, I will only tell my family after the 8 week appointment when I can hear the baby’s heart and have the clear that everything’s going well. Try to ease your mind, wishing you the very best!!

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I announced at 4 weeks 🤷🏻‍♀️ after 3 miscarriages.

Pregnant after two miscarriages - when to announce?

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