A little advice needed

Okay so other week me and partner were at it in bed ya know the drill🤷🏼‍♀️😂 but I started to feel him go soft 😶 ( this is super embarrassing for us both if I’m honest ) he didn’t realise someone he was like “ put it back in “ so I told him I can cause it’s completely soft now even tried to make it hard again nothing he was super embarrassed I was thinking it was me he swore it wasn’t me and it was him saying he wasn’t feeling it today , but this was two weeks ago and we havnt done anything since we’ve been together 4 years and it’s the the first time this has happened someone told me to spice it up a little but honestly all he wants is anal and he’s happy ( don’t give him that not my thing and hurts 👏🏻😂) just need a little advice really