Insecurities ..

Let’s go back first, long story. My boyfriend of 4 years & I broke up awhile back over trust issues & just over other women. He wasn’t talking with them, just overlooking while being with me, had random girls on Snapchat, wasn’t focused on me anymore, etc. I agreed that part of my issue was my insecurities & we both agreed to change after I made him choose between them or me.

We have worked on ourselves A LOT over the past year, we are much better but today we were grocery shopping & I saw him looking at a lady. It wasn’t the quick glance type of thing, it was different so I brought it up right away which in reply I got a “chilllll..”

I left it at that. Later on, I see him doing the same thing. I waited till we were home to bring it up & he said admitted he looked at her ass multiple times bc she looked older & she had a booty for an older lady so he just had to like “double check & she was pretty”

I don’t wanna be that kind of woman. I don’t want to have to “check my man” I don’t want to feel like I’m not good enough. I know I’m overreacting but at the same time, I wouldn’t look at a man like that you know? I guess I just need some advice or for another woman to tell me it’s ok, Idk.

We have checked out other women together before, he has said “she’s pretty” & I’ve agreed as well etc but this one really bugged me for some reason 😢