I’ve been having a hunch about it from beginning of this year like February. We all flew out to other country to visit family and me and my daughter stayed longer (3weeks) than him. I noticed weird transaction on PayPal that he paid $100 to some random women. So I asked him “what is this?” and he said “ehh it was for work. I had to pay for conference”. I was like okay because I trusted him back then.

I came back beginning of March and found out he been looking for escorts on some websites. Of course I asked him about it and he said he was just looking at their photos to masturbate. I told him I don’t like it, you can watch all the porns you want but not this. Because porns aren’t real those escorts are. He promised me he won’t go back to it.

Fast forward, in Beginning of May he went out middle of night and saying he’s going to gym. It was like 4:00am. I was tired sleeping with my daughter so I told him okay. I woke up around 5:00am because I knew something wasn’t right. So I looked for my phone to hit him up and I couldn’t find my phone. I had to grab my iPad to locate him and figure out what’s going on. He turned off his location sharing and sent $120 to some random girl using cashapp. I just sat on couch wait til he comes back home. He came back and saying gym was closed so I couldn’t work out. I told him what I found during he was gone and he acted all cool like he didn’t do anything wrong. I asked him to give me his phone so I can go through it and he willingly gave me his phone and I found few more evidence. He started to acting physically aggressive and scratched my wrist to get his phone back. It was Monday morning so he had to go to work. I just let him go to work. He sent me long email and saying he did pay for hooker but she ditched on him so he just wasted money. But now I know everything it was up to me if I’m going to forgive him or end the marriage. I thought about my daughter so I told him I will give him one more chance.

Month later, I found out he’s penis photo and few selfies that I’ve never seen on his deleted photos. I asked him and he said he just took it to see how it look like. I also find the sent $25 to some another random girl. He said it was food truck by his work.

After that I went through his phone some more secretly, found out he downloaded POF, Bumble, KiK, one night dating app and he put it on hidden downloads area. Because we share accounts so I can see what he downloaded.

I got all the proofs and screen shots to show him but I don’t know I should do it or not. I’ve been in pain for almost half year and whenever I try to talk to him about it he treats me like I’m some crazy women. We got 1 daughter together and I don’t know if I can forgive him this time or not. I really want to keep this marriage for my daughters sake but I’m just too tired to act like I don’t know anything and keep getting hurt inside.