My husband doesn't have much of a drive. I am so frustrated. I want to have sex at least three times a week, he says he does too, but he doesn't initiate and often rejects my advances. If I say "do you want to have sex tonight" he says he is too tired and tries to tell me it hasn't been that long since we had sex last. I want to be adventurous...try different positions and have sex in different rooms of the house, or sex at different times of the day. But no, it's always sex at night with the lights off. I've tried sexting him and he doesn't seem that interested, and when I ask him later about it he says he loved it. I have tried lingerie And he doesn't go crazy over it. I told him he could help pick some out that he really liked, but he kind of brushed it off. When we finally get down to having sex, he seems to enjoy it, even though he is silent. I've been having trouble orgasming lately because I feel whatever about us not having sex much and him not seeming to be interested in things I want to do. He thinks I am horny all the time, which I am not. But sometimes I feel dumb for telling him I'm horny because he never does anything about it and acts like I'm just so crazy. We have two children, our youngest is 3 months and we have been together for five years. Married for three. I know his drive us lower than mine and I want to be okay with that but I am so frustrated. Does anyone have suggestions? I want to make him go crazy. I want to make him happy. I want him to want me so bad like I do him. He used to want sex a lot, and loved being adventurous. Since the children came its been so different. It makes me sad and I don't know how to get it back.