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Honestly my days go so much faster now with 2. It’s definitely exhausting. The hardest thing is dividing your attention. I feel like I’m constantly choosing to meet the needs of my 2 year old because he tells me (cries/whines at me) in words what he needs. But I wouldn’t say I’m any more tired than with just one. There are moments where they play with each other and entertain each other. And I just have so much going on that I blink and it’s suddenly lunch time and nap time, and I blink again and my husbands coming home. Not sure where I’m going with this other than that my days don’t drag out as long 😅 and you just make it work. There is nothing in the world more heartwarming than watching your babies love on each other, I’ll tell you that much!
Exhausted with 1!
Who else is still feeling exhausted with just the one child? My October 16 babe is now over 2.5 years but after I put her to bed each night I feel like a complete zombie! Despite sleeping well, I wake up exhausted and have to drag myself out of bed in the morning when she wakes up. I’ve had all my blood levels checked, so it’s not a deficiency. Maybe it’s because I’ve never had a break/night away from my daughter as we live overseas away from any close friends or family. My husband and I divide our weekends really well so we have shared time together as a family and time off on our own, but parenting is relentless! I feel like I never have enough time to fill up my own cup before I have to pour from it again. How do people have the energy for a second child? We are just now starting to consider trying again, but it’s been an exhausting journey these past 2.5 years and I really have to mentally prepare to try again! How do you know when it’s the right time to try again? I’d love to have another child and for my daughter to have a sibling, and I don’t want them to be too far apart, but where do you get your energy from? Perhaps upping my sleep and caffeine is just what’s needed to manage 🤪😅
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I feel you 100%. I’m home with my daughter all day and have never spent a night away from her. Going from a full time job where I was constantly interacting with people to staying home all day with a toddler is so mentally fatiguing. I legit feel a little crazy some days. We had always talked about wanting two kids but I’m starting to think our one might be enough. Especially since She’s becoming more vocal and able to start doing some things on her own I feel like my life is just now starting to get closer to how it was pre baby. It’s hard to imagine starting over with the whole no sleeping, breastfeeding, diapering stage all over again.
I could have written every detail of this myself! I feel exactly the same way. I’d love to give my daughter a sibling but I’m still so exhausted. I’m literally running around non stop for 14+ hours every day and feel like I still haven’t caught up on sleep from her birth 2.5 years ago 😂😳 I think having parents and family near by makes a huge difference. Even the mental load of not having family/support is exhausting for me. And because my husband and I are all on our own I feel like that makes me go above and beyond for my daughter to make sure she is very well taken care of which makes life extra tiring too 🤷🏻♀️ So I have no advice just letting you know you’re not alone. We’re just starting to think of a second but I’m not sure I’m ready
This sounds like I could have written this a few months ago. I know many people who have had second kids very soon after the first. And I’m just like WTF? How? It was a big hell no for me until she hit 2. Then I could sort of start to see it but still felt exhausted. We jumped in and tried for a month. It didn’t happen and we let our fear of a second get the best of us. Took a break and started trying again after maybe 3-4 months. After three months just got our BFP for baby number two! The way I started to look at it is that they will be a decent amount apart without being too far apart. And thinking I’m always going to be tired, there’s always going to be an excuse to hold off. I’m 31 and not getting any younger, and didn’t want to wait too much longer. And didn’t want my daughter to be too much older. So kind of like taking that leap with our first, we decided to roll with the punches. Obviously this only works if you truly want it and feel ready. And some people only want one and it’s ok!
It’s going to sound ridiculous and the exact opposite of what you’d expect, but exercise. About 4 months ago I changed my eating habits and started working out 6 days a week for at least an hour every day (just at home, in my garage) and in the process lost 30 pounds. Since then I haven’t felt the need to take a daily nap, I’ve kept up with our daughter better and I have way more energy. Being active actually makes you less tired, not more. Amazingly enough. It’s not for everyone, but for someone who used to be active, and then wasn’t, it’s been a game changer. That being said I don’t know that I have the strength mentally to deal with two at this point. One if quite enough. Everyone keeps saying we should have another and I’m like “Yeah, sure, maybe in another two years”. Besides, I can barely pay to send one kid to daycare, there’s no way I can afford two. Once she’s in school all day, then it’ll be up for discussion. That’s my marker.
Oooo where do you guys live? We are also overseas. Maybe looking into your diet and trying to squeeze in some exercise and sunshine. I find that I feel terrible after not exercising for so long. We now have two (second is seven months). It is our new normal and I feel about the same level of tiredness at this point.
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