1st off my mother in law and I have never really gotten along. Most people tell me they would have never married my husband knowing how she in.

Back story before I get into people telling me she's my husband mama I need to be nice to her. That's a big no. Like 7 years ago I drove her car to get a pizza or something and accidentally left my wallet in there. The next month I started getting Bill's for everything in her house. Lights, internet, phones, cable, EVERYTHING! I was barely 20 and still paying for it.

She's only allowed to see my kids with me here and where I can see her. She's crazy like we had to get her committed twice. I dont even feel comfortable with just her and my husband here with the girls.

She comes over once a week to see the girls( I have 2 my 11 weeker and a 22 month old.) I pretty much spend the time cleaning so I don't really talk to her.

She holds the little one most of the time when shes here. I get it she's new. She completely ignores my oldest like she's not even here! I went in the back room to pump and I heard her fussing at her threatening to spank her. I mean I know she's a wild child and hard to handle sometimes but seriously?

If my oldest tries to play with her or anything she hands her a phone with YouTube. She got mad a few weeks ago because my daughter refused to call her grandma... or anything and it's been like this since then.

She wouldn't go to the hospital when my youngest was born because she didnt want to see my family. She's not going to the baby dedication for the same reason.

Am I just blowing this out of proportion? What would you do in my situation? Everytime I say something to my husband her always say "I turned out fine I dont see the problem." The woman fed him ADHD medicine so he would be chill. He has a studder from it.