Does he use me ? 😔

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Hey ladies, so this is abit of a deep post but I really can’t turn to anyone I feel really lost and hurt. 
Me and my boyfriend have been together a long time since a young age , we met when we was 14&15 and now we’re 20&21. 
We’ve been officially together 4 years now and been in two relationships because the first time round he left me for another girl. 
I thought he really really loves me we’ve been through so much together and we’re like best friends and lovers in one - but things lately have been making me doubt that, I think he uses me? 
when I leave his house to go back home he’s really mean and ignorant and he knows it gets to me, he ignores my messages but is always on his phone he ignores my calls, he switches up on me and says stuff like “ I don’t know where our relationship is going” and he knows it panics me so bad I literally drop everything and run to his side.
But when I’m at his house he’s the opposite, he’s all over me he can’t get enough talking about our future getting married , he’s romantic cooks me dinners makes me breakfast in bed really looks after me in that way but he never ever pays for anything ! 
He will ask me to buy a takeout or ask me to buy him cigarettes and ask me to pay for our cinema date- if I don’t he pulls the “ our relationship is boring” card and it really makes me feel like I HAVE to pay for these things to keep it exciting, even though he’s ungrateful.. I took us out to the cinema last week paid for everything including snacks and all he said was “ well that was shit” 
It really really upset me 😔 it’s like I’m never  good enough or anything I do is never good enough and I’m hurting so bad right now I’m an anxious mess. He’s even been trying to change my appearance he’s pestering me to bleach my hair cut my hair wear less make up I feel so stuck because I genuinely love the guy to bits and would do anything for him, but is this too much?

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Fuck this guy

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that doesn’t sound like love, someone who loves you will always treat you with respect and like a queen. you should be happy much more than you are unhappy. i personally think you should try and move on, he’s not nice, uses you, and doesnt appreciate you. there are much better people out there i promise!!! good luck❤️

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He’s manipulating you. 
Left you for another girl 🚩 gas lighting you when you’re apart 🚩 making no effort to try to pay for things (does he work?) 🚩 not being grateful 🚩 trying to force you to change your appearance 🚩 
That’s a lot of red flags. You should get out of this relationship in my opinion. There’s so much better out there

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Girlll run away! Been there done that. 4yrs is enough. You’re young, get out while you can! 
Your partner is not supposed to make you feel like shit. And yeh maybe after losing he ll change cuz he’s young and he doesn’t realize what he’s gonna lose but hey you’re not the one who he’s gonna continue to test on and than bounce like he did the first time.

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He’s being an abusing cunt. Leave him

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It will be hard but leave him. That is an abusive relationship in the making