So mom of 3 here. Im struggling with confidence and dealing with anxiety and depression, but my brain keeps saying my partner isnt attracted to me. And then i for sure don't feel like he is when it took 2 and a half weeks to finally get him in a mood to have bland sex. We have a vibrator, but he didn't use it. I ask what he's thinking about and he says "nothing" and my heart just falls. I want this time with him to mean something. My mind just runs and I get so uncomfortable to the point that I can't orgasm and haven't been able to get off on my own either.

I'm at a loss for what to do with myself, my thoughts, him, our sex life. Its a shit feeling.