I just want to know how everyone feels about people living with new couples. Especially new couples who have only just moved in together or are just getting the hang of being new parents.

My partner and I got our new place earlier in the year (feb). Ever since moving in, we have never had any space to ourselves. His family members keep moving in and it’s starting to frustrate me, not because they’re living here. But more so because they’re not helping with anything at all.

When we first moved in, two of his cousins (boys) decided to move in. This one I understood because they live pretty far and they came to help him with work. So it was ok.

A few weeks later, his cousin (female) moved in, pushing the two that work to sleep on the couch and her in the spare room. Her reason was to come and stay here while she looked for her own place, which we were ok with. Until she started interfering with my personal space, going through my stuff and using all of my beauty products without letting me know. Telling me how to be a mother to my child etc. She was working full time, but complained about not having enough money all the time. This made me so uncomfortable because I’m in a difficult part of my life where I’m unable to work and I have absolutely no money to look after myself after paying bills etc.

The other two boys decided to leave because they didn’t have jobs since my partner was now on paternity leave and helping me around the house because I couldn’t move around comfortably after my c - section.

About a month ago, her brother calls in and asks if he can come and spend one night here coz he had to go and trial at his job etc. we said yeah it’s ok thinking that it was just for one night. But nope, he stayed over a week and my parter asked him what the go was. He tells my partner that he is now living here (now I’m just fuming because this is so wrong in so many ways). I said why didn’t he just ask fo stay for a bit or let us know his plans. We can’t afford to be catering to all of these people. I’d buy food and the fridge would go empty. Cook, come back and sometimes no food left for me. I’d clean the house and find it just as messy as it was before I cleaned. Clothes being left in the living room etc.

(None of them contributed into bills, food etc.) except for his sister who pulled out about $100 occasionally.

My mum was here for a weeks holiday to see my daughter and she couldn’t even stay here because of how crowded the house was. She had to stay at her sisters and I had to drive there almost every day because my mum had no way of getting to mine. (The reason for us moving in here in the first place was to have a spare room for visitors to stay in and so on.

Now his sister decided to move out and his moved into the spare room. It’s been less than a week since she left and he brings a female to the house when none of us were at home and she spends the night in our spare bedroom. I’m aware that he uses tinder a lot (he is 22). He brought her over when we’re we’re out and I couldn’t sleep all night knowing that there is a stranger in my house and I have no idea who it is.

This makes me so uncomfortable because I don’t want random females walking in and out of my house and knowing where I live. I have a new born in the house and I’m really trying to build a home for my family but this is just tiring and frustrating.

I was told to stay quiet, but no. They’re not paying the bills hate and I’m over it.

Am I a bad person for thinking this?

how would you deal with the situation?

How should I deal with this situation without being disrespectful?