Would you be upset?

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My boyfriend has a past of morphine addiction. He asked me to take him to the grocery store today but wouldn’t say why (he doesn’t have a car right now). When we got there he picked up 2 poppy seed containers and told me he was making poppy seed tea. He said it wasn’t bad, makes him less anxious etc. Well I ended up googling it to find out it has morphine and opioids in it (I don’t know much about drugs so I didn’t know all of this) and that you can get high from it. He knows I’m against it and don’t want to enable him. Well he asked me to drive him back again because he needed one more and I told him no, I don’t agree with it. He threatened to jump out if I didn’t take him so I did. Would you be upset?

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WTF?  Who needs three plus poppy seed containers in one day??  
An addict. That’s who. That’s got addict behavior written all over it. 
And threatening to jump out of the car? You know who threatens that? Three types of people: abusers (as a form of control/ manipulation), the mentally ill, and addicts. 
It’s a red flag girl, a Big Red Flag. 
You have every right to be upset.

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Nope I wouldn’t be mad. I would move on. And not because he ate poppy seeds but bc he “needs them bc they help him stay calm” he obviously isn’t in a good place mentally and unfortunately he may not be there for a long time. There are usually deeper issues with addicts and until he finds healthier ways to receive stress and help him stay calm, and he does it for himself he’ll never be at a good place. Being with an addict long term is extremely difficult and although some people make it work it’s not for everyone. You really need to decide if this is something you want to take on.

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Heck yea i would be upset. He's threatening to jump out of a car just for that. Im not sure how that works but he sounds desperate to get something.

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I don’t think it’s half as bad as the real stuff and maybe he can use that to officially quit other things? I don’t know

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girl, this is enabling.
he’s using tactics to manipulate you. if you don’t know about addiction, i suggest you google being the spouse of a drug addict.
he’s not in the right state of mind. also, yes as someone with knowledge of drug tests, you can even fail if you have enough poppy seeds in your system for this exact reason. he sounds like he needs mental help for drug abuse and if he’s going to this level, of claiming to harm himself just to get it, make that pronto!
it’s almost like an alcoholic having a non-alcoholic beer to “calm their nerves” 🙄 it’s all or nothing if you want to fight addiction.
you can’t force him to get help but you can put your foot down and not be manipulated by him. there are many means to that. like i said, google it so you can get some more in depth answers. you’re not alone.

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I would of let him jump out, you don't need that in your life

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I would be upset and what you did was the correct thing. I would talk to him and tell him you’ll help him stop and get over his addiction but you won’t help him get this “fix”. The hardest thing for an addict is to lose their rock. You might just be his rock. I wouldn’t give up the relationship just yet. I would help him through it. 
Do some research and figure out what you can do to help him. Maybe find some things like hiking or running could help him. It can release endorphins that make the body feel really good. That’s how I helped my friend get off of meth. We would hike weekly and we would go for walks daily (loooong as walks). She had tried to quit a lot of times but that was the only thing that helped her. 
One more thing. If won’t stop unless he wants too. He needs a reason to stop. Something to care about. If not then he isn’t going to stop no matter what you do. Best of luck to the both of you.

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