So I’ve know I was into BDSM and DDLG play since I was a young teen. Yeah I started early lol no judgement please. Anyways does anyone ever wonder what other people’s sex lives are like as far as vanilla goes? I have two close friends who are into the same stuff as I am. I have only one other close friend and her and her fiancé I know for a fact are simply just vanilla as it gets. She doesn’t talk at all about her private life and that’s fine. But I just wonder how many men or women are in a vanilla sex situation but secretly have these kinks that they don’t know about because they’ve never explored due to either social constructs or even religious beliefs? I know if my super catholic family ever found out about the things we do, the toys and items we use etc. I’d be shunned for eternity (no joke.) but can anyone who’s not known their kinks provide some insight to my curiosity if you are not afraid?

Such as did you have an idea of what you wanted but denied yourself or was it a surprise finding? How did you even figure it out? Was it just a random hey let’s try this situation or did you explore ideas on your own through maybe internet or books? How did your SO react to these feelings you might’ve been having?

I’m sincerely not a weirdo whose prying I’m just curious as I’ve known from an early age what I needed in the bedroom. Curiosity just got the best of me finally 😂🤷🏼‍♀️