Hi ladies,

I am struggling with feeling undesired (physically) by my husband. We just got married a few months ago. When we were dating he set very strong boundaries, which I respect. We seldom slipped up. Now that we’re married I was ready to bang! Lol. But he shows little desire.. on our honeymoon (and to this day) he didn’t want me to put on any lingerie. If I do ask for sex he is lethargic about it and sometimes it starts an argument. I have had trouble orgasming with sex and I think that has something do with it. But he wants to pound and be done and I need warm up time ! I’ve communicated this with examples ... like making out , grab my boobs lol.. something to turn me on. He also has never gone down on me, he says he just doesn’t like it. But he had gone down on other girls in his past and that’s all I can think of is .. what is wrong with me that he doesn’t want to do that?

When we first started dating he said he didn’t want to make out with me because his hands would roam and he wanted to keep respectful boundaries, especially considering our faith. Now we’re married, he doesn’t ever initiate to make out and if I do he is good for about 4 seconds and he is done :( and no roaming of hands, ever.

I’m young and fit, I have no idea what is wrong with me that he has 0 desire.

I’d love to know if anyone else has any insight on this.