Why is TTC so WEIRD!!?

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Ok. Weird is a strong word. But. We're 3 months in to actually TRYING. Almost my entire sexually active life has been spent PREVENTING pregnancy and now its feels like this crazy thing I want so bad. Its changed my perception on so many things (sex, especially) and I feel like I have baby on the brain all the time.  The waiting period is the worst. I have a hard time not talking about it with other people, and I know the advice is that you're really not supposed to. When I don't, it just kinda spins around in my head. 
This month has been particularly rough. I'm out of state visiting family (parents live out of state and my sister lives our of the country) and I built up this really vivid fantasy in my head of being able to tell my husband and my family on the 4th. I took a test a couple of days ago that was a BFN, but a small part of me is still hoping. The only way of being "ok-ish" with the idea of not being pregnant is being able to look forward to the baby-making sex. 
Idk. Just a lot on the brain. It feels good to dump it somewhere. I really wish I had someone going through the same thing just to comiserate with. I'm over the platitudes and the "it'll happen when it happens" bs.

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We’re taught our whole lives that if we have sex unprotected we will get pregnant immediately. So when the time comes that we actually want a baby and it doesn’t happen right away we are surprised.
TTC was extremely difficult for me in an emotional sense. It took us almost 2 years with our first and I was to the point of wanting to give up. We are in month 4 trying for our second. It’s not as bad as the first maybe because I know deep down it could take a while. It’s a tough thing to go through and I’m so glad for this community’s support. Good luck!

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Update! AF was supposed to come today, but no period in sight. Also. Not craving chocolate, which is SUPER weird. Pregnancy test in the AM

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Today would have been day 5 of my period if it had started. Not even a spot in sight. Still having breast pain, especially on the left side. Getting super tired easily. I have some pressure in my pelvis, but not like cramps and I've been bloated for about a week or so now. I don't have a huge appitite. I wanted to test this morning, but my mom and sister convinced me to wait until tomorrow. Here's hoping I finally get my BFP! 🤞🤞🤞

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I feel you. I spent 12 years on bc and due to sexual trauma couldn’t deal with semen until my husband. Been trying now for 15 months without success and it kills me every month. I didn’t start worrying until we got to a year because it is like wtf??? Of course PCOs doesn’t help but like you I had the vivid fantasy I would have been able to tell him he was going to be a dad on father’s day, woke up to a BFN...

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Hi! First off, you are not alone! Always write posts on here for the Glow Gals! We will listen to any and everything you want to share. Secondly, TTC is weird. The mind set of trying to prevent pregnancy to trying to create a baby is a huge mind shift! Since it has been three months TTC for you; are you regular? Do you know when you ovulated? 
We have been trying for 3 years and nothing. I have Uterine polyps, one of which was removed in June. I just ovulated today and have entered my two week wait.... this is also the killer part for a lot of women. Try to keep your mind busy. It is hard but doable. I have many TWWs and the more active you stay the easier it becomes. 
Cheers! Baby Dust to you!!

Why is TTC so WEIRD!!?

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