Am I too optimistic? Do I need to not be?

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So this month I would have been 8 months pregnant, but I miscarried at six weeks. My husband and I want to be parents so badly, and weve been trying for a while to conceive with no luck whatsoever since the miscarriage. Do I need to not have my hopes up? It seems if I want something too bad it doesn’t happen for me. I just don’t know what to do, I’ve been tracking myself and I know when I ovulate, it just hasn’t happened yet.  It hurts so bad to see other women who have kids so easily take them for granted. Being a mom is all I’ve ever dreamed of being, why is it so hard for someone like me to become a mom? How is it fair? 😞

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Not sure if you have used ovulation test strips but they are pretty helpful. Hang in there girl! Your bebe is coming! ❤️

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I appreciate that so much! ❤️ It’s been more difficult than I can let on to anyone how much hurt I feel about not only miscarrying but feeling like I let my husband down. I know I shouldn’t think that but sometimes I do. People think it’s just an easy thing to put aside and an easy thing to get over, but it’s not. But I also can’t forget that my own husband is hurting as well. My heart hurts for anyone to ever go through this, especially for anyone who has miscarried multiple times. and thank you for the advice. I definitely need to find myself a hobby to occupy my thoughts. What is clomid? Never heard of it

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I hear ya, I would be 7 months this month and my sister in law just had her gender reveal and our really good friends wife just found out she is pregnant. It's so hard and infuriating at the same time. I feel I get to excited each month around the time I would get a positive test and get so let down when they are negative and AF comes. Positive words from people do not help at all when your TTC after a loss...they just dont. My advice, which is hard for me to even follow sometimes, is find a hobby (I'm planning my wedding now), get your mind off the baby making, and stop tracking your ovulation. It will drive you crazy. Just have sex every other day and try to stay positive. I'll be praying baby dust for the both of us! I am starting my first round of clomid tomorrow as our friends wife just got pregnant after her first dose! She also had a MC a little over a year ago.