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As many as you choose too. It’s your body, nobody’s opinion but your own matters.
How many abortions should someone have?
Here's my story and I know I'll be judged but that's fine because I'm in a baf situation and don't know how to handle it. I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was a complete shock. I had paraguard inserted back in December and followed up with my appointments and when I went to the ER this week they said the IUD WAS NOT THERE 😑😞 I told my ex boyfriend who I recently broke up with on fathers day (3 years together) & lets just say he is furious at me. He doesn't want the baby at all and wants me to have an abortion. He is 49 and he just doesn't want to be a father again because his children are grown. I have 4 children myself and it's a struggle. I'm a nursing assistant and we don't make much money. If I a abortion this will be my third one and I just don't know if I can go threw that again. My last abortion was back near Halloween and the baby would've been born the end of June and here I am finding out thr end of June I'm pregnant again. It's kinda making me feel like God wants me to have the baby. I don't have a good family or friend system so I come to you guys for advice on what to do with my pregnancy. After 4 children and 2 abortions my DOCTOR WONT TIE THEM. Believe me I've asked numerous times and they say I'm young and not married. Even went to 3 other doctors who said the same thing. If it was up to me they would be tied two children ago. I'm 28 going on 29. Thank you in advance
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Friendly FYI OP, in case you didn’t know, but you can report all of these comments shaming you. Especially the ones that are basically saying you’re killing your baby. Admin will suspend them as it’s against the rules. Also, in the end whatever you feel is right for you. Think about it and don’t let anybody on here make you feel like shit because of their personal bias. I wish you good luck in whatever you choose and wish you the best.
I’ve never had one so I can’t say how many would be safe or such. But what I do know is...your body, your baby, your choice. I can’t say to you what I would do because I don’t live your life. I think you need to decide for yourself. Think about it. Make a list. Choose which option is the best for YOU.
No one can tell you what to do. You ultimately have to do what is right for you. You either have to live with raising a baby you can’t afford with a father who doesn’t want said baby, living through another abortion or putting the baby up for adoption. Those are hard choices and I wish you the best. I also think it’s time for permanent sterilization. A tubal ligation is in order here. If you don’t want anymore kids, back up contraception until you can do something permanent seems like the only way to have sex. Nothing is 100% and neither of you wanted a baby, using a condom along with paragaurd could have prevented this. Maybe you know that now but you’ve been in this situation three times at this point and while I’m not judging you, I am saying it’s time to make better choices for you body and mind.
It is horrible that your doctors won't listen to you and tie your tubes. I believe you about that I have a good friend with health issues who #1 doesn't want kids and #2 pregnancy might kill her and it took her years get hers done.As far as how many abortions, it really depends on the person and the situation. No one can choose but you. If an abortion is what is best for you and your kids then you should do that. If an abortion is not the best choice for you then I wish you a healthy pregnancy.
However many you decide to have. It’s your body, no one elses. Not even the high and mighty “I’ll adopt your baby from you” bs-ers. Doesn’t matter if anyone wants the future potential baby, you are the person growing it. If you want an abortion, then get one. But I’d also recommend looking into a more permanent form of bc. Not because getting abortions is wrong, but because they are time consuming and it’s obviously easier to prevent rather than terminate
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And I guess all the people saying tie your tubes don’t know that most doctors WONT unless you are over 25, have had a boy and girl, AND have permission from your husband. My mom wanted one after my brother was born and she was 38. Doctor said no because she might re-marry one day and the new husband might want kids. Had absolutely no problem giving my dad a vasectomy though
You shouldn't worry about being judge because this group is to support those who are going through a decision like this or have gone through. But its your body sweetie if you believe its the right decision then do what you believe is right. When i had my abortion i did knowing it was the right.
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