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Currently 9.5 months postpartum. When we tried for our first, we agreed that once we got pregnant, wed like a second within a couple years. Ideally an 18month-2year age gap.
So now that we  could start trying anytime, I find myself second guessing. Is it too soon? But we dont want 3 year age gap or more, as were that way with our siblings and would like our kids closer in age. But I feel guilty. Physically I feel fantastic. I'm 10 pounds off from pre pregnancy weight, which is fuck all, as I have been this weight before I was pregnant lol. So I'm comfortable with my body, I exercise everyday, moderately. I've been eating healthy since I was pregnant. I feel good. Just guilty. 
I'm torn between "giving my first the attention she deserves," as my family says, and, giving my kids a close age gap so they are closer as friends than my hubby and I with our 3yr+ age gap siblings.
I'm not even worried about handling two under two.. or a 2 year old and a newborn. ...well maybe a tad, but not really lol. 
I feel like purposely trying for a second already is selfish. Even though our main reason is for our kids to be  close...
Hubby has been pulling out and I have been secretly hoping I was pregnant every month. Just like i did the first time round before we started testing. Ugh. What to do. 
Any advice mommas?

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I felt like that too. But my daughter is 6 months old now and her 2 year old brother now helps feed her and shares his toys and stuff

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My advice is .... if you’re secretly hoping to be pregnant .. you’ve answered your own question .. go for it 🤷🏾‍♀️💛

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I personally like a 3 year age gap. My sister and I are 3 years apart and are very close. I even have a baby sister and brother that are 14 and 15 years younger than me and the age gap never stopped our strong bond or closeness with each other. All my kids are roughly 3 years apart. I wanted to wait until my first and second kids were potty trained to have my second and third.

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I dont have too much advice, but my big sis and I are close to 3 years apart and we're best friends 😁

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We are planning on the same thing. I’m 26 weeks pregnant with our first and we want to start trying for #2 when she is 10 or 11 months old. It took us 6 months to get pregnant with her, we both are a little older (I’m 34 and he is 41), and we want them close in age so that’s our reasoning. My best friend has 9 month old twins and so obviously they have to share everything and don’t know any different. I feel like our baby won’t know any different either if her brother or sister is born before she is 2. We’ll see when she gets here but that’s our plan!

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My sister and I are almost 4 years apart and we are close. I think that it’s just sometimes kids are close and sometimes they aren’t. 
As for me I waited to get pregnant with my second because I wanted my son to be over is baby stage and the mememe stage. I think it worked out well because now he is excited to be having a baby sister soon and feels like he’s “a big boy” and wants to help with her. 
Although I do have friends whose kids are close in age that it worked out for as well. I think there are pros and cons of each so you just have to do what you think is best.

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They’ll both get attention. Attention from everybody and each other. This babyhood only lasts a short while. They’ll become best friends. I wish I could have had my closer together. 
My brother and his wife get pregnant once their first started walking so 10 months, they had another and are trying. Babies are 2.5, 1.5. Their bond is so sweet.

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