Feeling like the 2nd mom

We live with my MIL, we were planning on moving out January but we ran into some issues and I’m so bummed that it’s not going to happen in January.

I really appreciate when she helps out with my daughter but when I ask. she makes me feel like such a shit mom. I had my daughter in the swing while I was cooking lunch. She comes up and says, “should I take her out she’s getting fussy” when she was completely fine. She says “when was the last time you changed her diaper?” “Should we have her watch tv?”

I was planning on taking my daughter out of the swing and playing with her after I was done cooking lunch.

I feel like I have zero place to say no because I’m not always in the best mood due to my ppd, so I haven’t been very nice lately.

I just let her take my daughter out of the swing and do whatever she wanted to do. But I’m just currently in the bathroom just crying.