Am I Wrong?

Also to add: I won’t even go on a date, that’s how picky I’m being. I don’t want to take anytime away from my kids. I just feel I should talk to them for a good minute before I take time away from my kids for a date. I don’t have time to take time for myself, my kids are my main priority and they’ve been through so much already, I refuse to put them through anything else.

I’m a single mom to 2 girls, I also am pregnant with a baby boy that wasn’t conceived consensually. I have been single this whole pregnancy. I have been trying to find myself and figure out what I truly want in a man as I tend to find myself in toxic & abusive relationships. This pregnancy I have came to love myself, I know what kind of mom I want to be for my kids & what kind of woman I want to be. I know now what respect I should have for myself & I’ve learned to enforce respect into my life. This is why I’m single, because I’m super super picky about what man I want to be with. I’ve talked to a few men here and there but it never lasts more than a few days because the minute I see a red flag, I ghost them. I just don’t have the time to waste. But I’m reaching this point where I’m wondering if I’m going about it all wrong? My parents and family always bashed me for being with drug addict abusive toxic trashy men, but now that I’m being picky they tell me “I have no right to be picky because no good man wants a 22 year old with 3 kids, regardless of my nursing career and success”. My ex father in law and I are close, we stay in touch because he loves his grandkids and he’s like a father figure to me, he tells me I’m not wrong for finally putting myself and my kids first and it’s okay to be picky. That that’s how I’ll find a good husband and father for my kids and that the right man will love me regardless of how many kids I have. Am I wrong for being picky? I just don’t want to end up with another failed marriage and another toxic marriage and home for my kids. I’m finally doing this 100% on my own, I don’t want to give it away for a man that’s not worth it. It sucks because there’s times I feel lonely, everyone’s married and seems happy and I’m alone and I feel like I’m never gonna get that happily ever after with the right man...I know I need to be patient, and as much as it kills me, I am. But it’s hard when my family is saying “I need a man because I can’t do this on my own” but I’ve been doing it on my own for a year now. I’m getting my nursing degree, I’m working full time, I don’t go out, in fact I have my kids 24/7, I have my own house, my own car, I’m not relying on anyone, my family doesn’t even help me or hardly see my kids, so idk why they’re being so negative to me about me doing my absolute best for my babies.