I was in a bad place before my husband and we meet right at then end of them. When I would tell him of some of the things I did or people I had been with I thought it was because he was accepting me and my past. In reality it was because he was excited and thought I was as freaky as him. I’m not, if anything from my “wild days” it has thought me things I am and am not into, as well as respect. That being said, because of what I am not willing to do, I am now too Vanilla for my husband. We have already tried all the things that I am comfortable with but he keeps asking for what I’m not. We already see a counselor.

We have now been married almost 5 years, have two beautiful children. And we haven’t had sex more than once a month for a year and a half. His response every time the topic comes up now is, you think of something or I’ll just go watch porn and jack off. What should I do?