Clit advice please?

Idk if I'm the only one that is this way but when I do it myself or my bf fingers me, gives me oral, or sex its great until he or myself starts messing with my clit. Then it starts to hurt and it feels pressurized and idk I've never really felt pleasure there, I normally only do from my hole

Is this normal?? Are me and him just doing it wrong?

I've always been told that thats the most sensative part on a girl and puts out the most pleasure on a girl but it only hurts me

Advice? Tips? Answers?

(Please and thank you 💕💕)