Am I doing something wrong? I can’t seem to have an orgasm

Emilia

So my fiancé feels bad and tries his best to pleasure me. He’s tried the many possibilities to do so - when I feel as if I’m about to, my clit becomes super sensitive and raw feeling....so it becomes painful(a little) and too swollen. A couple times(sort of embarrassing) I’ve wet myself a tad. Thankfully he’s been very patient and non judge mental. Do any of you have this problem?