Edit 1: if I stay put were i live now I can afford it fine. I just want a bigger place and since I work for myself I dont get paid maternity leave. So that is were money needs to be saved. Not because I'm broke or unstable. I was holding us both aflot wen he lost his job and even provided for his family.

My ex and I were together for a year. About 5 months in to our relationship I cought him cheating with another girl that thought they were dating. We worked thru it and since I'm not a jealous person I really didnt care much for it . This was October-ish. Come December I find some weird text from him and his ex wife but since there going thru a custody battle he played them off as "playing nice until everything is settled". Cool. Didnt care much agin for it. I got pregnant in my IUD in January and had a miscarriage in February. We both decided to have me get off birth control and have a baby. I got pregnant in April and we found out at about a month in the day after mothers day. Our anniversary was may 26th and I dumped him on may 22nd for cheating thru text with a couple different women. I dumped him since he did it while I was pregnant and knew I was pregnant. Still not a jealous person so I dont actually care for the cheating part but it's about respect . We hang out on the 26th with his kids and family( I know everyone and we all get along just fine and his momma loves me). His mom asked me if I was pregnant based on me getting a bit round and eatting everything in sight. I said yes. SHE ASKED ME INFRONT OF THE KIDS. The kids then went back to there moms. There mom calls me soon after they were dropped off calling me a home wrecker and a bunch of other stuff because they are apparently married!! This guy has been living at my place for a whole year and she is just now finding out he was cheating? He didnt just stay weekends or part of the week. He full on lived here. Would go visit his kids and come back. The wife thought he was living at his moms house the whole time because they were having "problems " that she didnt understand but he was admit that there were issues.

Anyways now it is July and he now lives with his wife. Is finalizing his divorce. And wants to get back together to fix our relationship. It's a FUCK NO for me but I'm playing nice so I can get the money out of him. I am getting my own place once the baby is due and need to penny pinch the whole way to be able to save enough for the deposit, and 2months worth of rent and Bills so I can take a maternity leave with out being broke.

Any money he gives me will be put aside. Any thing he buys me will be returned and cash put aside.

Am I wrong? Or am I just doing what needs to be done for me and baby?

He is financially struggling on his end but he did put me in this situation.