So i moved in with my aister about a month ago. I was in a bad situation with my mother so i moved because i was constantly going down a path i didnt want to be on. So my sister has a 17 year old and a 10 year old. I love them to death but they are tornadoes when it comes to making messes and never cleaning up after themselves. Also, they can be really fking disrepectful to me occasionally. And right now im not really paying rent because i dont have the money. Im Saving up.

So ive been cleaning constantly. The first two weeks i cleaned the same messes everyday twice a day!

And then a week ago i get yelled at because im not helping out. Just because i atopped cleaning for a few days and my sister had too do it. Take it. Before i moved in she and her husband did it and rarwly made her kids help.

They are spoiled brats.

They really are.

But i left a marriage because of multiple reason and one of them was they never cleaned up after themselves and blamed me when i wouldnt clean for a couple days.

My mother did the same thing to me. Except she would always make messes then blame me and so on and so forth. Her boyfriend did it too. My mother is crazy and manipulative also.

And so i moved in with my sister and shes so cynical and the other day mt nephew like punched me put of anger because i wouldnt move because im the adult i dont have to do what they say. Hes 10!

And instead of giving him consequencea for punching me take it. In the stomach.

She tells him not to hit and then changes the subject. Like he didnt just hit me.

My sister and i have a strained relatio ship due to the past. And our mother adandoning her and her blaming me for the longest time. Then she turned the blame to my sister.

So anyway.

She asked me a few days ago to do the diahes and i did. Then today i did more dishes. And she is just like "I asked you to finish the dishes two days ago! Stop acting like a child!"

Frankly, i know this may sound whiny but im just trying to get an outside opinion.

I have never rwally been close with anyone in my family. No one gets me. I. The black sheep and i just dont follow society norms and shit like that. But its like everytime i move in with family theres this mindsrt i get into and i turn into their maid and im always in the wrong. Idk if its fro. The damage i got from mt ahitty childhood but when im living with people who aren't my family. Im the perfect adult. I cook. I clean. I have no problems. But everytime i live with family. Always turns out lime this and i get depressed and i hate it.

My questions is to you peeps.

Do you think my family is shitty and i jsut need to give up?

Or am i just in the wrong and need to fix my shit?

I dont know if its me self sabotaging or if i just need to not live with my family.

I really aould love an outside opinion.

Thanks...

UPDATE:

So yes i am rent free. And i have a job and just got a second job. I underatand that the cleaning is my rent but she just takes it too far and literally treata me like she dpesnt want me there.

Im grateful for her helping me out.

But its too the point where im cleaning up after everyone and i dont mind it but when it gets to the point of doing it twice a day everyday ota gets exhausting.

Yeah i get i should just save up and move the hell out but it's not that simple.

So much more behind everything.

Yeah i relationship is strained and honestly i dont think she even wants me here but everytime i try to talk to her like an adult she is never wrong and shes had life harder than me. And this and that. Yeah i get our mom adbandoned her and not me but that doesnt mean i had abperfwct life and when i try and talk to her aboutstuff. She loves too tell me im a spoiled brat and this and that. My family is severely dysfunctional.

Thanks for all the perpesctives.