I need some advice. My boyfriend has erectile dysfunction issues and when he does get hard, it either fades away shortly into sex or he comes quickly (less than 5 minutes typically). He is always willing to "help me finish" with oral/toys/fingers, but I want actual sex. We have lost our closeness since we rarely have sex (maybe twice a month if he can get hard and he's actually in the mood, which is rare - I always have to initiate). I have talked about it with him, and I even went to the doctor with him a month or so ago to ask for Viagra for him. He was on board with the idea, but he still hasn't actually taken one. I know it's not that he doesnt want sex, it's just that because of his ED issues, he tends to avoid it. We're both 27, and I love him very much, but I feel like this is destroying our relationship. He has Type 1 Diabetes (the kind your born with), and erectile issues are somewhat common (especially since he wasnt managing it well last year).

I just don't know what to do. I need sex. Like actual dick and vagina sex. I'm getting tired of foreplay only, and I'm tired of feeling like I need to wait for him to fall asleep so that I can use my vibrator without making him feel bad. He is very aware that this is an issue for us, but neither of us know how to fix it. I tried everything I could, short of seeing a sex therapist. Any advice? I'm just so frustrated and I don't know what else I can do.