I have a lot of trouble getting in the mood for sex unless I can spend a significant amount of time beforehand like thinking about it and fantasizing about it and getting excited. When I just go with it when my husband initiates it, I feel like I have to push myself into getting aroused.

So sometimes I’ll spend like an entire day at work thinking about the crazy sex I want to have with my husband when I get home, and I’ll finally feel like I REALLY want sex. And then when I do get home, I find that he’s not in the mood. Then I feel super frustrated because I worked so freaking hard to build it up to myself all day.

The only time we have really good sex is when it works out like a total coincidence... that he initiates it and it happens to be a day that I’ve already built it up in my head.

We’ve tried basically scheduling sex so this happens on the same day, but that entirely takes the heat of the moment and the passion out of it, and makes it feel like a chore!

I’m sick of relying on coincidence you guys :( how can we make sure I’m building up on the same days he’s going to end up being in the mood??