So I met this dude earlier this year and we both agreed the single life was lit and we both didn’t want a relationship. Him because of drama and me because I had gotten out a bad relationship a couple months before so We was friends for a while we’d hang out go to eat, see movie, go to club together etc . We never talked about being anything other than friends But one day we ended up chilling at my place after going out and we hooked up it wasn’t planned at all. And after we both acted like it didn’t happen. So about two weeks later our conversation started getting shorter we stopped hanging out and he post a picture of him with this girl at the club which he never posts himself with anyone so I’m like aye my dude finally got himself a girl and he’s like lol nah still single she’s just someone else I mess with . Atleast he didn’t lie. So fast forward a lil and we’re back cool again we get drunk at this little kick back and we hook up again except it wasn’t a quick fuck it we actually made love . I kinda caught feelings at that point and he did too he posts me with the caption “a real one💙” and that same girl adds me on Instagram after I commented under a pic he had posted . I follow back whatever didnt think anything of it . She started watching all my IG stories. So one day I click on hers and it’s a screenshot of their convo during his lunch break and the name being “hunny 🍯 ❤️” with a picture of them together in her phone . Ion say anything to him for a few days then he messages me on the fourth day like what’s wrong and I’m like I thought you were single but since you’re clearly not anymore ima just go . He’s like he still is single . So I tell him what I seen and he’s like I chill with you the same way I chill with her and I’m like ok I just didn’t want her to start asking questions if y’all were together. And he’s like he understand .A couple days later he invites people on Instagram out to his brothers bar opening. I show up and so does that girl and several other people . Hed spend a lil time sitting with her and a lil time sitting with me and moving around talking to other people that came out so when it closed his group of people all stood by his car talking talking pics exchanging Instagrams and the dude and that girl was off to the side arguing cuz her hands wer all in the air and she’d walk away and hed pull her back then I really tried to not make it obvious I was staring . Then she got in her car and left and he comes back and everyones like who’s that your girlfriend and he’s like nah I’m single y’all know how it goes . And one girl was like We know it looks like you in trouble and he’s like nah I can’t get in trouble if I’m single . So that night the girl goes on live saying a lot of people been adding her being nosey so to clear the air she been with the guy for a couple months and that she with him everyday after he got off work blah blah . So in my head I’m like MONTHS?! That would explain why he’d never txt me after 10pm even when he’d be active and stuff til 4 am and that I’d see him mostly on weekends....I didn’t talk to him after I seen that cuz I didn’t wanna go off on him . I felt like doing nothing and he randomly txt me the next morning saying he’s gonna be abstinent. I’m like where does that leave us ? And he’s like idk yet I’ll ttyl I’m about to clock in . He doesn’t talk to me on my lunch break . So after work I call him and he basically says it’s just about that time and I’m like fine for what ? And he’s like to stop being a thot . I’m like ok. So am I still seeing you this weekend and he’s like idk . And I say ok wyd and he’s like he’s picking that girl up from work. I’m like u picking her up and dropping her off and he’s like nah she’s staying with me tonight. Right but you was saying you goin be abstinent. I’m like that must just be for me and he’s like no you taking it the wrong way. I’m like what’s up then you in a relationship with her and he’s like _______! (Her name) as she was getting in the car and I’m like ok whatever bye . Another night of him being active and not talking to me even though I txt him and Today he’s like hey and I reply “I’m done this friendship or whatever this is since you can’t tell me what’s going on. You cheated on that girl with me and had me thinkn u was single? How long had y’all been together? Doesn’t matter I blocked both of you on Instagram already . Have a nice day”

I’m hurt . He hasn’t responded cuz he has to leave his phone in his car at work but his lunch break coming up and I want him to reply but I know he won’t . Ugh I feel stupid. My sister says message her but I don’t think I should. I should just take my L and move on . Right

I’m sure he had sex with her that night even tho he said he was being abstinent cuz he didn’t tell her. So this must be his way of getting rid of me instead of telling me his now in a relationship.

Elizabeth- because him messing around isn’t a problem for me cuz we both single . It’s one thing if he’s single but I think he’s been taken this whole time and I he cheated on her with me that’s what I’m not ok with