My husband has lied to me so many times over the years. Most recently that he had quit dipping when he hadn't. Repeatedly. Other times about where he was at (just with people I dont like). I know he is doing it because he doesnt want to argue about it. But the lies hurt me more than the truth. I just wonder if the lies will ever stop? How am I supposed to believe him when he says he will be truthful when he keeps lying to me? Can someone actually quit lying or will he always be like this? Our trust is just gone. I just dont know how to come back from not being able to trust him.

Update

Thank you everyone. I was going to ask him again if he quit even though I knew he hadnt which would've led to an argument and I've decided to delete my excessively long text about how I cant trust him and how done I am with his lies and have a conversation about this instead when he gets home and talk about how we can both make changes. I've given him so many chances with him lying but I havent made changes myself about how I approach things. I can be high strung sometimes. It's just who I am. It's hard for me to realize faults.