Sorry if it’s long, I apologize.

So about 4/5 years ago, I dated this guy for about a year. He was pretty fucking amazing, I could never get enough of him I just loved him so much. Everything was going good until he started being TOO jealous and overprotective. I couldn’t take it anymore and we split. Well I broke up with him.

Im not going to lie, about a month later I started dating this other guy and at first I wasn’t really feeling it. I told him that. But he still wanted to try to work it out and I agreed. It was a good choice that I made, we’re still together and he’s changed my life so much. But throughout the 3+ years we’ve been together, I still thought about my ex alot. I always think about him. Me and my SO have a kid now and we’re engaged. But lately things aren’t the same. And I just can’t help it. I can’t stop thinking about my ex. I just wish things could’ve worked out between us. I want to try. But at the same time, I want to stay with my SO and be a family with our daughter and overall my SO is such a good man. Literally the best ever. But idk what to do. I don’t know if I miss the memories I had with my ex, or if I actually miss HIM. How do I tell? What do i do? WWYD?