How to work on yourself, by yourself?

Question

I’ve decided to get a gym membership, start to eat more healthy, take vitamins, etc. I tried this two years ago but couldn’t stick to it because I had no one to go to the gym with (my friends live a hour away and my boyfriend’s schedule didn’t allow him to have time for the gym). So it was hard for me to kick myself in the ass and force myself to go to the gym a lot especially when I was exhausted from my job. And as for eating healthy my boyfriend who I live with wasn’t interested in eating clean and would always bring home fast food or take us out to dinner. 
How do you do it by yourself and motivate yourself?

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Motivation isn't your issue. Self discipline is. Google "How to develop better self discipline"..

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I did it on my own. Lost 87 pounds last year and got lazy until recently but kept it off. I’m at 94 down. Have zero desire to eat fast food. It’s mostly psychological losing weight. You find your reason and that becomes your motivation and goal and fuels you to keep moving forward. If you can stick with it a week, it turns into a habit and becomes part of your routine and once you have that it feels like something is missing or off when you don’t. It takes a week to break or make a habit. Yes we all get lazy. Yes life happens and celebrations happen. Life is 80/20%. 20% you can eat and splurge on the weekend a little or at a party and but 80% ya gotta be good and eat well. It’s about finding a balance and alternative not starving or depriving yourself. It’s how you look at things. I don’t clean eat or go to a gym or meal prep or cook or sweat. If it was inconvenient or hard then it wasn’t for me. I raw and microwave. I’m the laziest dieter ever. But it’s not a diet it’s a lifestyle change. Been at this 560 days. I eat mostly vegetarian during the week. Went a little crazy this week with my family here and eating out every night but time to get back on track. I just walk and eat better. I do high protein high fiber and low sugar low salt and mostly granola bars for bread carbs. 2 a day. I get my carbs from fruits and veggies. I still eat meat and dessert but I save it for eating out once in a while. I use MyFitnessPal app and Fitbit that’s it. MyFitnessPal is great it tracks everything, teaches you portion control and you really learn about food and reading labels and rationalizing food options and it makes you think a lot. Sugar and salt make you gain and bloat. You get a set number of calories and when you exercise you get extra calories to eat or save towards the end of the day which is your calorie deficit and equates to weight loss. Nutrition is 80% exercise is only 20%. I intermittent fast from bedtime to 1-5pm. I’m rarely hungry in the morning only if I’m up at 4-5am. Takes a good 4-6 hours for me to get hungry after waking up. I have a big lunch 900-1000 calories and then a light dinner. My lunch is 2 veggie burgers, (220 cal) steam bag veggies (100 cal) 2 junkless peanut butter chocolate chip granola bars (130 cal each) fage 0% fat plain Greek yogurt (90 cal) 2 apples (80 cal each) Premier protein shake (160 cal) sometimes I break it up and have the veggie burgers and steam bag veggies and then the other stuff later as snacks. Dinner vary from no salt cottage cheese (360 cal) carrots and celery, apple, English cucumber, a cup of blueberries with the cottage cheese, a protein shake if I need it, whatever I feel like a yogurt, sometimes celery with peanut butter or hummus or guacamole and veggies or sometimes I do cotton candy grapes or regular grapes sometimes I feel like 100 calories packs of dole dark chocolate frozen bananas or halo top pops 50-60 calories each I don’t trust myself with the regular pints or breyers delights mini pints of ice 70-80 calories each etc I still eat ice cream or chocolate I just find alternatives. I prefer pre portioned foods just grab and go. I used to cook in the beginning zucchini noodle with garlic and oil and a cut up turkey burger etc stunk up the house lol.  but I got lazy in all honesty and found alternatives so I didn’t have to cook. I’m the kind of person that can eat the same thing with some variations. Green beans and broccoli are my go to steam bag veggies. 6-10 grams of sugar is what I lol for with the exception of fruits and veggies but I try and stick with lower sugar fruits. Like cherries are very high in sugar while blueberries are lower. My mother eats nothing but crap. Soda McDonald’s Taco Bell etc. But she’s skinny always has been. I got my dad’s side horrible genes. I had an uncle that was 700 pounds and when you go to the gym like 4 things aren’t checked with family heath history. I think about food and gain weight. My max was 350 a lot contributed to that 2 miscarriages, a horrible reaction and was on high doses of prednisone for 2 months and gained 60 pounds in that time, abusive relationships growing up without a father, i sought comfort in men and it always backfired,  you name it. Verbally abusive mother all my life. We all seek comfort in something and develop bad habits. Food. Sex. Smoking. Drugs and alcohol shopping, gambling etc. An escape from reality. It’s a lot of learning new habits like journaling or screaming into a pillow or yoga or exercise or remembering all the hard work you already put in and repeating to yourself it’s not worth it over and over again. My mother is my trigger. I will randomly find myself going to the fridge after a fight with her and it’s a lot of she’s not worth it. It’s understandable how the weight can add up quickly. A can of soda a day for a year is 15 pounds gained in just soda alone from all the sugar. Only thing I drink is water, sparkling water and chewing on ice. Tricks your brain into thinking you are eating. Also a sign of being anemic, which I am too. You gotta figure out what works for you both food and exercise. Walking 1-13 miles a day indoors in the kitchen, the mall and grocery stores etc. 13 miles was rough and was killing me but I had to do it to break a plateau. I do 1-4 on average now. I was a sweet freak and carbs and junk food. The ice cream man stopped at my house daily. Sitting with a bag of chips in front of the tv. We all have bad habits. I got lazy for most of the year. But I kept it off because I still ate better. I didn’t start walking until recently. Sometimes you recycle the same 10 pounds eating out on the weekends and losing it during the week. The more you have to lose the easier it is. If you only have 20 pounds to lose, it’s like death. I can drop a half to a whole pound a day just walking and eating better. I gained like 9 pounds this week with my family here. Prime rib and pasta and juniors cheesecake etc. Sleep is always very important the less you get the more you gain or harder to lose. It messes with your system. My best advice is to keep healthy snacks with you. We are all creatures of convenience. Hence fast food and snack machines. If you have it with you, less chance you will eat junk. I always have a snack bag with me or apples and granola bars and protein shakes in my purse. I don’t have a set number that I want to lose. Just as much as possible. I set little goals. In the beginning it was 5-10 pounds at a time. I still stick with that. I’m happy if I lose 1/10th of a pound or a half a pound. The scale is just a guide, it doesn’t define me. If I gain weight it’s not like I haven’t weighed that before. If the scale doesn’t move you gotta shake things up more or less calories or more or different exercise. Your body gets used to things. You can do anything that you put your mind to. I’m here if you need to talk or need words of encouragement. I wish you luck.

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Set youself small goals to achieve. Like for example. I said if I lose 10 lbs I am going to buy myself a new outfit. Or 15 pounds go get a pedicure. Whatever you are into. Also once you start to see results the results themselves will becime addicting.

How to work on yourself, by yourself?

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