🚫WARNING!!! EXTREMELY EMBARRASSING!!!🚫

Okay so.. me and my boyfriend have sex almost every weekend mostly because he works out of town for right now and I can’t see him that much. But when we do.. I orgasm within 10 minutes and it takes him 15. After he does ejactulate/orgasm and tries to go back in it hurts really bad and it’s like I’m a virgin again (yeah that tight). I have been sexually assaulted in the past could it be that I’m unaware that I’m getting “sex shy” on accident I guess you could say? Also when we have sex doggy style I always umm queef. How do I stop this?