I really appreciate help from friends and family but I’m sick of people telling me what’s best for my daughter all the time.

Like people telling me I need to “live a little” i.e. go out and party all the time when I just want to be with my daughter for now. I have my whole life to party away, I’m also 32 and have had plenty of time to do that. I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I am pretty confident I’m not spoiling my daughter by taking care of her the best way I can.

For the past few weeks we have been at my parents’ country house. My husband stayed with us for a few days but had to get back to work so I’m having to deal with her 4 month sleep regression/leap/whatever this is by myself. She also spits up a lot, sometimes even projectile vomits but a blood test has recently ruled out cows milk protein allergy.

I am super tired from waking up many times every night and not having any time for myself during the day (naps are also non existent lately 😱😭). I am also worried there’s something my daughter is allergic to that I should avoid eating to help her with her spit up problem (I’m EBF).

Today I just want to cry, I can’t stand my parents and family friends telling me how I should take care of my daughter and everything that I’m doing wrong. They just want to help but it’s so annoying. I’m trying to do my best and this is not helping at all. They make me feel like I’m crazy and that it’s all in my head, that she doesn’t spit up too much and that the lack of sleep is just because: I’m dressing her too warmly, I shouldn’t put her on a schedule/I should put her on a better schedule, I’m feeding her too often, I should let her nap on the stroller and not in her crib, I’m not eating enough, I should start eating dairy again... the list goes on. I just nod and agree. I am tied of trying to explain my point of view and my doctor’s point of view.

My mom got her to nap now and I have to watch my daughter sleep instead of taking a shower because she’s in the stroller with lots of blankets and a bib around her neck. But you know, my brothers and I survived and we slept on our backs with thick blankets so 🙄🙄🙄

Rant over, thanks for reading this super long post 🙈