I am in total shock. I just saw a post about “SO”s & someone posted a pic of MY BOYFRIEND.

I don’t even know what to think. Or what to say....

EDIT: I took a screenshot as soon as I saw it, best believe I will be showing him & who ever it was had recently posted it, since it was at the top of the section.

My heart hurts. For privacy reasons, I will not post his full face. But this is what it was.

If he tries to deny it, I have proof. I understand that some people can just tandomly take pictures off the internet, since his page isn’t private, I can totally see that happening. But what are the odds? You know????

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*UPDATE: 7/19

Well I went to see my boyfriend, by the way we’ve been together for almost 4 years. I asked him if there have been any girls who he’s been “friendly” with & asked if he needed to tell me anything. OF COURSE he said no. Well I asked him if he knew a girl..let’s call her Kate. I asked him if he knew a girl named Kate, and showed him the screenshot, and as soon as I said her name & showed him the pic, he had this shocked look on his face as if he’d jsut seen a freaking ghost. He then said “Oh yeah you mean my cousin *Kate* ?” He must think i’m on some type of stupid shit, because i’m not buying that “cousin” crap. I walked away without waiting for an explanation, and he’s been calling & texting me. I refuse to talk to him, I don’t know what to do. I was really ready to give him the benefit of the doubt until he came up with this “cousin” shit. He could have at least TRIED to come up with a better excuse

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*UPDATE: 7/19 (2)

Well ladies, we broke up. I did some more digging Last night and HE‘S BEEN CHEATING ON ME FOR A MONTH.

I am so fucken heart broken, how did I not see this?! We have been doing so well, he was being super nice, doing anything and everything to make me feel good, sex was amazing. I went over this morning so we could talk and I took his phone while he was in the shower, I checked his insta friends & well lo & behold, she was there. She had pics WITH HIM. Pics from June! Most of those days I remember clearly, he claimed he had to work late so we wouldn’t be able to hang out. I am so devastated. I never thought this would happen to me. I’m tempted to mesaage her and see if she knew about me because I clearly had no idea she even freakin existed.

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*UPDATE: 7/20

Thank you for all the kind words. It’s been so hard. I added the girl on insta, she accepted and requested me, so I accepted too. I haven’t said anything about it, except liked all her pics with him in them. I also deleted all but one if the pics on my page, the one where we celebrated our FOUR year anniversary. I want to message her but don’t know what to say. Do I say “Hey how do you know MY boyfriend?” or do I simply act like I don’t know? I had cried myself to sleep last night, I just don’t know how to feel. I think i’m still in shock because I just don’t believe that he could be like this. How can someone invest FOUR years into a relationship and just throw it away as if nothing matters? FOUR YEARS. Not four months, not four days, not four hours. I invested so much, I gave him anything and everything he asked for, anything he needed. I was there through some of the toughest years. We were planning to start trying for a baby. I am so glad that it didn’t happen because it would kill me even more inside. 💔

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*UPDATE: 7/23

Hi everyone , i’m back. I’ve been off this app for a few days trying to get my head together. Thank you ALLLLL for the love and support. It’s been so hard. I found out that they have been together for 2 years already, three pregnancy scares and they even got a puppy! All this was happening UNDER MY NOSE AND I HAD NO IDEA. I didn’t message her, but I did have one of my friends add her and a few of her friends, whom she had tagged in pictures. One of the friends had a picture of them together at a wedding... it was the day he was supposed to go with me and my family out of town for the weekend. Guess who had to try and explain to her fam that her boyfriend wasn’t secretly cheating 🙋🏻‍♀️ this girl.... little did I know he really was. I am 100000% glad that I found out, better late than never right? To everyone who has asked for the post, I believe she deleted it because I was looking for it and I didn’t find it. I wish I was petty enough to post a pic of her, but I don’t think she deserves that. I haven’t told her, but I know he is thinking about moving in with her. We have a mutual friend who found out about it and told me. It hurts so bad, we had those plans. Was I not good enough to fight for???? Or to even stick around for????

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*UPDATE 7/28

Hey all, just wanted to give a little update on the situation.

I have been reading all the comments on this thread, and alot of you made so much sense. I wasn’t planning on telling her, but some of you made a point of, what if. What if she didn’t or doesn’t know? I can’t let someone else suffer the same fate I have. So I told her. I messaged her on insta and I got the courage to tell her.

This is what I sent. I took the screenshot before she saw it. She hasn’t replied though, but she hasn’t taken the pictures down.

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*UPDATE 8/5

Well everyone, she responded two days after, but I wasn’t able to get on here since i’ve been trying not to think too much about it. It still hurts. It won’t let me post a picture, I don’t know why. But this is what she said:

[“K” - Thank u for letting me know. I asked him about u. He said that ur his ex and u have been broken up since before we got together. I don’t know who to believe.]

I don’t know if I was expecting more. Or if I was expecting her to say that she’d break up with him asap. I didn’t respond because there is no point to it now. He’s in the past and she can have him if she wants. If he cheated on me who knows if he’s going to do the same to her. At this point it’s none of my business. I can’t keep living in the past. I appreciate all the love and all the advice from every single one of you. I wish I had the courage to post my account on here and not do this anonymously. I do need some tips though. How do you get over a 4 year break up? What are things I can do? THANK YOU ALL IN ADVANCE.

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*UPDATE 8/9

Ya’ll ..... I didn’t reply to the message she had sent me, and after reading I deleted my insta app so I wouldn’t be tempted to reply. Well I got back on & she had sent me another message. It said

[“K” - Btw I saw that post on that <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">period app</a> shit. I don’t see y u have to go ahead and tell ppl ur problems. There’s two sides to every story and how tf do I know if ur telling the truth about him when he can’t defend himself not knowing what ur posting and shit. Grow up and accept the fact that ur not together anymore.]

I just want to say that yes, there are two sides to every story, but how do I make the cheating for TWO OUT OF FOUR YEARS sound good? How does that even begin to sound like it’s not true? She has pictures, I have pictures, we both have pictures with him. We both have memories with him. I would understand if we had been on a break, or simply broken up, but to have that proof and still not believe it?! I deleted her and blocked her. I am done with high school drama. We are grown ups, we are 21. No need to go back and forth with this.