Will it ever “get better”?!

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At the 4 month mark and everyone continuously tells my husband and I that “it’ll get better”. We’re sleep deprived, exhausted and tense. We hardly ever see each other.
Our little is super fussy most the time it makes it difficult for us to leave him with our parents or to go out anywhere. Now he’s waking every 2 hours and taking super short naps. If anything it’s getting worse 😢

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If your baby is born around the due date, then you're currently dealing with the end of a leap and sleep regression probably. Both of those are around four months.
It will get better! It's different for everyone how long their hard period with just surviving is, but it is a phase. Your child gets older and it cannot last forever 😊
Try to let someone look after the baby, if they want to, and relax a bit. Your baby might be sad that mom is gone, but you need to function as well. So if a break, a date, some sleep will help you and someone near by will keep an eye on your baby just do it. A shower some food and a nap can do wonders when you're just surviving from day to day.
I hope it gets better soon.

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😓 do you work? On my maternity leave we worked really hard to introduce him to grandparents often so he would get comfortable being with others. We’d slowly start leaving then coming home so he knew we were coming back and now he’s in daycare and he loves his providers! (We had a bad experience at first but switched to an awesome family oriented daycare ☺️) he still has “fussy” days they tell me but for the most part they say he’s adjusting so well. And at home it’s hard for me to tell if he’s fussy because both of us just hold him as much as we can and even fight over who gets him 😂 we work long hours, during the week  but he’s got 4 days left of the four month regression and it was ROUGH for about two weeks and now he’s much happier ☺️ unless he has a teething day 👀
Sorry this is so long, hope things get better!

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My baby is super fussy too 😭 I believe it will get better! It won’t last forever 💗

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We are going through this but parents understand! We left him with our in laws twice this weeks so we could sleep some and go out to dinner together. He was sad a bit, fussy off and on, didn’t sleep well (but isn’t really anyway) but WE so needed that reset. And baby needs to practice being without you some. It was hard and not perfect but so glad we did that! We were having conversations we didn’t even remember and getting in small stupid arguments.

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Check out “Taking Cara Babies”. You can google for her blog and classes or follow her on Instagram for her tips and tricks. Her advice on sleeping and so much more saved my husband and I’s sanity!! It does get better!!

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Yes, it will get better. Nobody knows how long, but obviously your not going to have a teenager crying at you keeping you up and night that can't take care of themselves at home 😅 I feel like 8+months is when it gets really fun and more natural to an active family setting and when they are more adaptable to being left with grandparents and such.

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Ahh sometimes I struggle with not having enough alone time with my husband since we literally have no evening sitter. That being said it will all get better, you will find peace and it’s only been 4 months and you’re still getting into your mojo. The first year is always the hardest.

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Although infants are super needy, exhausting, and often frustrating, your LO shouldn’t be fussy ALL the time. Have you had your 4 month appointment yet? You could always bring up your concerns to your pediatrician just to make sure there is no other issues going on.

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Yes, it gets better.  No promises as to when tho!  My first was so hard and sleep was terrible the whole first year.  Me and his dad even broke up for a bit because of all the stress and disconnect.  But it did get better, we have #2 and she is so much easier!  Hang in there!  Read dr sears baby book, chapter on the “high needs baby”, described my son perfectly and made me feel better that it was all normal, just who he was.

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