Hi there! I am a single momma to a sweet 2.5 year old little guy, prior to becoming pregnant with him I was working as an equine therapist (physical therapy for race horses) and made really good money, I saved enough from that to get us through the first 2.5 years along with nannying and doing side jobs. I’m now pregnant with my second (my birth control didn’t serve its purpose😳) I had hoped/planned on not having children until I was with my partner for life, you know? But not the case and the dad is not going to step up in the way I would’ve hoped.

I live in CA and just want to hear from others how the actual hell they make it happen. I’ve nannied in order to be able to raise my son while providing for us but I’m not sure this will be a feasible option with two. I had to quit my main job in May due to the situation with the family becoming unstable (I was being left with 4 kids instead of the two I was hired for and the children’s father would come when the mother wasn’t Home and took it upon himself to spank my son in front of me). And since I’m pregnant no one has been hiring me even for positions I’m qualified for. I know I’m just going to need to figure it out but looking for advice/input. I have some college under my belt (bs in business) but didn’t see the sense it continuing to put myself in debt when I can’t even find a job. I just got certified to teach yoga so that will help, I have tried equine therapy here but the clientele in the area I’m in just don’t value it for what it is. I live on my parents’ detached apartment but it has no windows and if nothing else I need to get windows put in. I make enough to pay our current bills (car insurance, medical bills, cc payments, and my YTT payments) but want to at the very least start paying my parents rent or figure out a different housing situation if that’s better for us.(I need to sit down w my dad and see what he’s feeling)