I’m the third in our relationship. They are married, and so their dynamic is different. I understand that and most days I can distance myself from them when they are having a bad day with each other.

G, the wife, is bipolar and being SO FREAKING EXTRA today. I almost can’t take it, and I’m not even the target of her rage today. She “mad” at R, the husband, because he left her alone to sleep on the couch and didn’t wake her when I cooked. WHICH IS WHAT AHE TOLD HIM TO DO!!! She said, “All I want to do today is take my drugs and sleep. So when I’m asleep don’t wake me up unless it’s an emergency.” THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT HE DID!!! Now she’s stomping around the house complaining and throwing a fit that she’s hungry. Bitch....I cooked. There is still some in the kitchen. Get off your ass and go warm you some food.

Now, being the calm one in the room. I offer to cook her anything she wants. She could ask for literally anything and I would get up and cook it right now. She snaps at me and says, “No! You didn’t wake me either and I’ve been hungry all day! I’ll get my own food!” 🙄 alrighty then.

Now he and I are in in different rooms on different ends of the house. There are at least three rooms and a hallway between me and the two of them. It’s been like that for a couple hours now. He said he needed to go into his office and do some stuff. She exploded again because she feels like he would rather be at the back of the house with me. My door is shut, and while his office is nearby there are still two rooms between us. We ain’t back here getting freaky. I’m doing my thing and he’s doing his.

So what do I do? I put down what I was doing to relax on my day off to come sit in the same room as her so she would know he and I aren’t talking or anything. Now she’s she ranting because I came in here like she can’t be in a room alone. I said, “ok I’ll go back to my room”. NOPE! Now she thinks no one wants to spend time with her.

Days like this are so trying.

G made a point. We have have been together for nearly six years. This is not a new relationship. I can remember a time before she was medicated. Days like today are few and far between. I love them and couldn’t imagine being anywhere else or with anyone else. I just needed to vent a little today. After her last blow up she got dressed and went to the grocery store and came back completely normal. Because that’s how manic times are. Sometimes they last forever. Sometimes it’s only a few hours. She’s been herself for several hours now, but that doesn’t mean she will stay that way. We have an appointment to see her counselor this week to discuss how things are going and make any adjustments needed.

Rose: The house is technically belongs to them. There is a built on extension that is for me. It’s just a little bigger than a master suite. I have my own full bathroom and bedroom. I have a small fridge to keep drinks and convenient food like lunch meat, cheese, and bread. It has a freezer so I can also have some frozen things. I also have a microwave. I’ve got my own television with satellite and internet access. I always do all the housework because it makes things easier for her. When I’m off I do the cooking too. I tried to cater only to her today, but she wanted his attentions not mine. Which is fine. We all have days like that, when we want/need the attention of one more than the other (or the group). Today she needed just him, I wanted the both, and R just wanted to be by himself. It happens like that sometimes. We ended up finding a happy medium and it all worked out. 😊