Ok kinda long story so apologies in advance

Debra is 35 and married

Eddy is 37 and married

Sasha is 22 and not married

So Debra, Eddy, and Sasha are all siblings and all working for the same restaurant. Sasha starts dating this womanizer line cook in the restaurant. His name will be Alex. Alex is all around a horrible guy, does drugs, drinks, uses woman. Debra gets mad and ask Eddy to speak to their little sister Sasha. Eddy explains that Sasha is 22 and there is nothing he can do she is an adult and needs to make her own mistakes. Debra then quits her job at the restaurant and stops speaking to Eddy over this. She still talks to Sasha though. Christmas comes a month later and for the last 4 years Eddy has gone to Debras. So he gives Debra a call and tries to coordinate Christmas. Debra very coldly tells Eddy she would rather spend Christmas with her family and hangs up. Wouldn’t even have their mom over for Christmas she completely shut out the whole family. I had mine and Eddy’s child at the end of November. This was my sons first Christmas. And she just canceled on us. Eddy is now pissed. Blocks Debras number, won’t speak to her. But again remember Debra and Sasha are still hanging out. So Easter rolls around. Eddy and I set up something to do with our 6 kids at our house since we just assumed we weren’t invited to Debra’s. Their mom calls Debra and asks her to come to Eddy’s house, so her 2 kids can do the egg hunt with our 6 kids. Debra again said no, and added again she would rather do something with her family. Now we are into July, Eddy and Debra still haven’t spoken. Eddy’s birthday is this weekend. Our plans are to crash our landlords party. Our landlord lives in the downstairs apartment and his daughters birthday is the same day as Eddy. They will be having a big cook out, literally in our backyard and the daughter is our 13 year olds best friend. So great plan. But now Debra called their mom and told her she wanted to come to the birthday cook out because she found out some aunt who she hasn’t seen in years will be there. (My boyfriend is somehow related to our landlord.) Of course their mom is excited all her kids are going to get together. Eddy told her though that he would rather Debra didn’t come, it’s his birthday, they haven’t spoken in months and he doesn’t want there to be drama. I personally don’t want her to come, she hasn’t seen my son since he was a week old and what she’s just gonna show up and act like his aunt now. Eddy and I agreed to not beat a dead horse. Debra has made it clear she doesn’t want anything to do with us and we don’t really want to to see her either after how we have been treated. Their mom is now furious, saying Eddy is the reason the family is falling apart, and blaming him for this. Their mom is now not speaking to Eddy.

Thanks to all that read this, what would you do? How would you handle this? In your opinion whose wrong/right?

I just wanna discuss this chaos with someone who isn’t part of the family.