To the girl who is pregnant and the BF lied

Starting I want to tell you that I hasn't been in that situation. I haven't been pregnant, but I want to give you some words with want I do know.

1. It wasn't ok for him to lie to you. Lying to your partner always bring bad news and brings insecurity to the relationship. If it's in your possibilities, talk to him and make it clear that lying only brought you doubt about that other girl and insecurities that he doesn't love you. He screwed up and he has to win your trust all over again if he wants, but at the end of the day is always his decision. And it's yours if you want to be with someone you don't trust completely. I won't say it's immature for you to complain about that, because in every age being lied to, hurts.

2. Please don't compare yourself to that girl. First as you say: you don't know her. You can be as awesome or whatever you think she is but, be honest with yourself, nobody is perfect and EVERYONE has flaws and dark places inside.

But what you can do is to see the beauty in you. Make something you like, paint, draw, whatever you like. And be kind to yourself. Try to know you better, what you like, what you don't, give yourself some love. Because if you don't love yourself, you'll be searching that love you need in places that is not. Make a journal. Make a list for the things you like about yourself and things you can get better. Maybe you and that girl are the opposite, but that doesn't mean she is better than you. Try giving some more love to yourself, day by day. Don't think in a week, or next month or whatever. Think day by day and be present, and give yourself the kind words you need and try not to compare or think badly about yourself. And it doesn't matter if you fall on a moment, but always keep on trying everyday. Give yourself the place you deserve, because if not, you'll settle with someone who doesn't give it either.

3. Love is a difficult thing. Somethings we win, sometimes we don't. But you need to remind yourself and be brave and real to yourself that even if he's not by your side one day, it will hurt, a LOT but you will learn you can be by yourself. That is he's not there one day, that doesn't mean you'll die. It will mean that a new season in your life is coming. A time to grow, to cry, to be free and maybe in that time you will get to know and be glad with the woman you really are. Don't be with someone you are dependent on, or just because you've been together a long time. Be with someone who makes you grow, who loves you and shows it. Baby part of growing up is making the right decisions. Loving someone is not just everything. Loving and being with someone involves much more: respect, caring, patience, honesty, looking for the best for your partner. It is saying I love you and showing it. Is not saying I love you when all the actions the other person does, screams otherwise. Only you know what you want in your life, and deep down I know you know which decision is the best for you.

4. And you're going to be a Mama !! I don't have the blessing to be a mom yet, but for what I know. To have a baby is everything, so.. Life will change, and you'll other one to feed and love and to live for. But for every person I know they say that life changes a lot, but they dont imagine life without their kids with all that it involves.

5. I don't remember exactly the quote but is something like this: "I hope you are proud of the life you have and if not. I hope you can be brave enough to start all over again" cause we only have one life.

Keep it up! Hope something of this words help you.