Missed miscarriage :(

We went for our first dating scan today, approx 7.5 weeks pregnant. The sac was measuring at 11mm but they couldn’t pick up a Fetal heart rate so they’re saying it’s not viable.

They didn’t actually say what it was as the ultrasound technician obviously wanted my doctor to talk with me but it sounds like a missed miscarriage or inevitable miscarriage.

I am seeing my GP in about an hour to discuss and confirm. We are devastated.

I have had no bleeding, I have morning sickness and a urine HCG test today was very strong.

What happens if I don’t start to bleed spontaneously? How long do they wait until a D&C? I would really want another ultrasound before considering a D&C in case it’s viable. But from what I’m googling if there is no Fetal HR and measuring 5mm+ it’s not viable.

I’m so sad. There’s the heart break and also lots of practical reasons why I’m sad. We planned this baby so we would have 2 under 2 (but only for a month or so, they would be approx 23 months apart). I wanted them to be in the same age bracket. It also was super suitable for maternity leave and the way my pay works at work. All kinds of reasons why I dreamed of this perfectly timed baby. We tried for a couple of months and then got pregnant in June, the “final month/chance” to have 2 babies under 2 years old.

Sigh 😥.